No thanks, not today, maybe in a few years!
This would be my exact response if someone was to ask me if I'd like to upgrade my family.
This blog is going to be written in a response form to a post made today by Chantal Hubert called "Musings on My Family's Size" (FOUND HERE:
http://tinyurl.com/yt4pfn).
Many of my friends have always thought that I was crazy for wanting to be a young mom. Seriously I never want to have to tell my child that, "Sorry, mommy can't push you on the swing anymore," or "No, not today, my arthritis is acting up again," etc. I have always desired being a young, active, and what I envisioned as a "fun" mom.
When I think of a "fun" mom, I see a young woman in my head, vibrant and beaming with life practically jumping out of her. I see a woman who doesn't mind constantly being on the go, and doing what is in the best interest for her kids... there does come a time when this woman needs to however say no, and take some quality, quiet, family time. I think being able to say, "no, I'm not really up for that today, I need some time for me," is harder that being the go, go, go type 24/7. I recently encountered this in a sort of way with the last family cookout of the summer that is coming up this weekend. I am sure though, that before I know it I will be saying "NO" a lot more; and not to family cook outs either.
I think I perfectly fall into the catergory of the mom that I desired becoming; we go out all the time; weather its shopping, walking, children's book readings, breast feeding groups, or just laying on the grass looking at the world, Erik & I do it all. Skot participates every chance he can get away from work.
My boyfriend of 2+ years, Skot, volunteered to be the stay at home parent so that I could return to work when Erik was just over 3 months old. Though I ideally wished I could have been the SAHM, my occupation just doesn't work in a home setting where his does.
Skot designs, and maintains web site for clients, along with trouble shooting, software issues, and business cards, and brochures. This is something he has the capability of doing right from our bedroom actually. Its quite nice and he is very good at what he does. At first it was a little difficult I think for him trying to cram in all his dead lines with a new born, but now that Erik is almost 5 months old it has become much easier. Erik naps longer and on more of a schedule, he is also become quite good & fond of entertaining himself and playing with his toys!
I've developed a routine for many things such as the mornings that I work, how to breastfeed and get ready, and feed Erik right before I leave, showering, getting ready to head out, picnicking, cooking/baking, going out to dinner, and long car rides; just to name a few.
Though large families great fascinate me, and I find their dynamic just capturing and motivating I am not sure if that is for me; though if another bun was in the oven, I def. would not do anything about it, I would accept it.
I like having just one child at the moment as Skot and I are still learning many things in the wonderful world of parenting. Erik has taught us both so much already; I love it. We both have our own thoughts on more family additions though. Skot having grown up with one sister, and myself a happy only child. Both having their own pros & cons.
I've been lucky enough to have found a wonderful mommy web site called SimplyMoms.com and there I have been able to interact and form wonderful friendships with many mothers of multiples, while I admire their courage, strength, and energy I definitely do not see myself as one of those mom's with 5 kids. I would become almost obsessive compulsive about equality between the kids. I love Erik and being able to devote all of my time to him, right now I would not want it any other way!
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